Fondu You
So you're into a certain girl, and you try to spend time with her to ascertain whether or not that interest is mutual so that you can take further action. One day it seems like she is totally into you, and she's flirty and happy to see you and sad when you leave and can't wait to see you again. You think that things are good. Then the very next day she acts like she couldn't care less if you were even friends or not. Every guy that's ever liked a girl knows what I'm talking about, and I think we've all experienced the ITB-reversal. Why does she do this?So I've been described as being a "fondu pot" by a few girls that I know, as a metaphor for how I'm different every time they interact with me, and that they never know what they're going to get. I've known a lot of girls who have told me that they just "don't get me" or that they don't know "what to make of me." I had thought that with such a consistent review, they must be right. Recently, however, I've realized that never has a guy told me that he didn't know what to make of me, or that he didn't get me, or that "sometimes I think me and Bryant are friends, and other times I think he doesn't like me at all."
My conclusion: I am not a fondu pot at all. It's girls. They're the ones that are inconsistent and unpredictable, and they've seen me through their inconsistent eyes and been unable to understand, not because I'm always changing, but because they are. It's not me, it's you.
posted by bryant-man @ 12:28 PM
8 Comments:
Mr. B, Fondu pot, is a nice thought.
My opinion is that ( though I didnt
date much of American girls), girls
unpredictable.Dont you think thats
what attracts you?
Ok, if girls become predictable, boy s like you and me will get bored soon.
I feel its good for girls to be unpredictable but not immatured or weird.
The one you are describing looks immatured to me.
However, one of my friend ( Indian from India) tells me that, girls in general are sensitive and cautious.
So, you need to make an extra effort to gain their confidence. Once you get into their " best circle", you will get know their orginal personality, where you will see that, the same girl asking you for help.
Then she will trust you and depend on you .
I thought this may help.
Nan
Your problem is that you're getting lost in translation. see, it's like you trying to talk to someone in sign language by yelling at the top of your lungs. It just doesn't work that way.
Men and women think differently and therefore interpret each other in different ways. while a guy may "get" you, it sounds like the general interpretation of your behavior by the female population at large is that they don't. So, you are faced with a choice. You can either figure out how to bridge the translation gap, or flirt up the men that don't need accomodating. It is entirely up to you.
How disappointing, in light of your recent posts I was hoping you had a story about how you chugged a fondu pot full of cheese.
Yeah, I just wanted to say that I think you're a fondu pot too. But I'm thinking more in terms of your body shape instead of your personality.
Here's some responses:
Nan: I don't know what you're talking about, but it sounds very wise, and I'm sure I'm not mature enough for it.
millgill: While it's clear that men and women think differently, the evidence suggests that the underlying method in the thought patterns of women is insanity, and as such there can't be a reliable method of translation. The solution that I think most men settle for is "I'm sorry, I love you, whatever it is that you want to hear."
Jason and Ronnie: What if I dipped the cheese quesadilla in a fondu pot of cheese? Would that be overkill?
I've stayed away, but this post just screams for me to use your past as an example for you. You changed weekly.
Your mom changes weekly.
When I read your blog, I heard, "I want to find a girl who doesn't mind the fact that some days I might love cheese-dipped quesadillas more than her." Nan, Millgill, and Maggie misinterpreted.
PS: Millgill wants you bad.
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